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Dear Readers,

I’ve noticed how quickly we reach for solutions.

Something feels off and immediately the question becomes: How do I heal this? How do I move past it? How do I get back to normal?

I do this too.

But recently, I caught myself trying to “work through” a feeling that wasn’t actually asking to be worked on.

It just wanted to be felt. That was… annoying.

Because feeling things doesn’t come with a checklist. There’s no sense of progress, no before-and-after moment. You don’t get to say, “Okay, that’s done.”

You just sit there. Aware. Present. Slightly uncomfortable.

If effort has been consistent but progress feels strangely delayed, it’s rarely because you’re doing nothing. Often, an internal script is looping quietly — even when you consciously want change.

This presentation helped identify what was actually running without forcing belief or behavior. Awareness came first. Momentum followed on its own.

If the essay named something you couldn’t quite place, this is usually where the pattern becomes visible.

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And yet, something interesting happens when you stop treating emotions like problems.

They soften.

Not because you fixed them — but because you stopped arguing with them.

We’ve been taught that healing means improvement. Less pain. More peace. Upward movement. But some experiences aren’t meant to be upgraded. They’re meant to be witnessed.

Grief doesn’t want productivity. Confusion doesn’t want clarity on demand. Even joy sometimes just wants to be noticed before it disappears.

The pressure to “heal” can quietly become another way of avoiding what’s here.

So lately, I’ve been experimenting with a different approach.

When something shows up, I ask less “How do I get rid of this?” and more “Can I stay with this for a minute?”

No fixing. No reframing. No spiritual explanation required.

Just attention.

And strangely enough, that’s often when things shift on their own.

Maybe healing isn’t an action. Maybe it’s a side effect of allowing.

And maybe the point isn’t to rush toward resolution — but to fully arrive where you already are.

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